Aug 212019

Are you holding yourself back by not ‘letting go’ of conditioned thinking?

“There were two monks walking along, an older monk and a young monk. They came to a shallow river, and there was a lady there who demanded that one of them should carry her across the river. So the older monk carried her across, and the two monks continued walking.

At the end of the day they decided to rest for the night. While they sat by their fire, the young monk said indignantly to the older monk, “I can’t believe you carried that lady across the river! She was perfectly capable of walking across, and she was so rude! She did not even thank you! I really don’t understand why you did it!”

The old monk smiled at the young monk and said, “I set her down hours ago; why are you still carrying her?”

Conditioned thinking is what this story tells us. The message is crystal clear. It’s about what you hold onto and how you relive the way things should or shouldn’t be. This is a burden you alone choose to carry. Nobody makes you do this. However, due to what you are conditioned to believe and think, and what you perceive other’s expect of you, you take on the challenge of carrying around unnecessary weight.

Cast your mind back to your childhood, your education and your youth. What transpired during those years? You would have been largely and directly influenced by your parents, your teachers and society. The conditioning you received became ingrained in your mind, your thoughts and your actions, as a result.

Are you keen to challenge your own conditioned thinking?

During my work with individuals who are in career or life transition, as a result of redundancy (lay off) or of their own choice, the concept of conditioning plays a significant role. It regularly rears its head as people  work through the 6 Steps of my career navigation process. Conditioning often gets in the way and can stifle your progress, but only when you let it, especially when not paying enough attention to Step 1 “letting go and looking forward”.

What is the impact of not changing the way you think, especially when you know you need to?

A good example is a client of mine who has experienced quite a journey since leaving employment. Having investigated a few similar alternative options, he decided that these are not suitable. Why? Because the realisation dawned that he would just be going back into ‘jobs’ he was trying to get away from. Unsure of where the process was heading, there have been emotional ups and downs. He realised that going through the process is a positive means to move forward, to help change his perspective and look at what he can do through a different ‘lens’. However, he has been holding on to the need to look for a ‘job’ to earn a regular income with the belief this will allow him to feel more settled. Will it though?

My client’s feelings and emotions are perfectly natural and he is right that working through my proven Career Navigation Cycle process will help him move on but he must learn to ‘let go and look forward’. Just as important is for him to remain true to himself and not to go for what he believes to be ‘the easy option’ i.e. getting another similar job, as this will more than likely only increase his frustration and anxiety.

Take a leap of faith and ‘uncondition’ your thinking

Another example is a client who is exploring alternative opportunities away from the conditioned thinking around the ‘need to get another job’. Working a few days per week on business development for an old contact, she sees this as one way to start to build a variety of income streams, to give her the chance to develop a Portfolio Career and what I call a ‘blended working lifestyle’, of her choice.

When you think about what you can do, from an exciting new perspective, with your array of skills, talents, interests and passions you possess, you will give yourself permission to challenge your thoughts and ideas and banish your conditioned thinking from the past. Imagine your own personal realisation when you discover that it is OK not to have to have a ‘traditional job’! Perhaps you can research some new ideas, gain clarity on the paid work you wish to pursue and let the rest evolve?

No longer limit yourself, instead discover what can be

 Release your conditioned thinking. Instead, choose to focus on reaching your own true potential. Getting another ‘similar job’ says this: “I’ll stick with the known, believe what others had told me is the right thing to do (conditioning), and remain as part of the ‘big herd’!”  In the infamous words of the late Henry Ford…

Whether you think you can, or you can’t, you’re right  

The choice is yours!

Steve Preston is known as The Career Catalyst ®. A leading Career Coach to executives and professionals, the Career Coach’s Coach, MD of specialist Consultancy SMP Solutions (Career & People Development) Ltdmotivational speaker and Internationally acclaimed Author of Career and Personal Development books and products, including Portfolio Careers – How to Work for Passion, Pleasure & Profit, Winning through Career Change and Winning Through Redundancy.

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Aug 082019

Are you living on ‘Someday Island’?

For many people it’s vacation time. That time of year when you pack up and head out for a week or 2 to forget about work and enjoy yourself. It might be your annual much anticipated family holiday, a week or two just chilling out or time for a real adventure.

I Don’t Like Monday’s!

After a much-needed break, you come back feeling refreshed but unfortunately, memories of that wonderful holiday quickly evaporate once you are back into your daily grind. Instead these are often replaced by the familiar feelings of dread when it’s Monday morning again!

It is a known fact that many people immediately look forward to their next vacation, having just returned from their latest one and escape from their daily grind. After all, we all like something positive to look forward to, don’t we? But what if instead you escape to that fantasy island where everything is just fine. Yes, I’m sure you know the one don’t you… ‘Someday Island’!

This is the magical, mythical island where all your dreams can come true, like the one we all know from our childhood… “Someday my prince will come!”

Maybe uppermost in your mind from your recent vacation…

  • Someday I will find a job where I’m not disturbed by phone calls or emails from my boss or colleagues while on my vacation
  • Someday I will find a job where I won’t need my awful commute
  • Someday my boss will leave and everything will be fine
  • Someday I will get the promotion I deserve
  • Someday I will find a fulfilling job or career I really enjoy  
  • Someday I will start my own business and be my own boss
  • Someday I will write that book I promised myself
  • Someday I will make time to travel more often or for that real holiday adventure of a lifetime
  • Someday I will start to look after my health and general well-being

What if ‘Someday Island’ wasn’t just a mythical, magical place where dreams come true?

What if ‘Someday Island’ really does exist? How cool would that be? After all dreams can come true anyway, can’t they?

So, here’s the thing, ‘Someday Island’ isn’t a place. ‘Someday Island‘ is not even a day of the week, Someday Island’ is a mindset…your mindset!

Success Goes Where Your Energy Flows

The good news is that you have the power to change how you think, feel, behave and the results you achieve in your career and life!  

I still marvel at, how once people have chosen to take the leap of faith and leave ‘Someday Island’ for ‘Today Island’, by taking positive action and investing in a coaching programme to achieve career and life goals, ‘magical things’ start to happen. By ‘investment’, I’m not just talking about financial cost. Although cost is obviously important, equally when you make such a commitment in time, effort and energy and learn to take the right positive actions, then almost anything is possible.

Success goes where your energy flows and it’s like you have started creating ripples in the universe!

Banish Your Fears

What holds most people back from making positive change, progression or achieving your true potential, is your fears. Working with a great career coach will help you overcome barriers to your progression, banish your fears and magically you will start to see things from a different perspective, where new opportunity abounds!

Break Free from Your Comfort Zone

It’s true that you achieve very little worthwhile in your life, unless you get out of your comfort zone. So, why spend your life dreaming about ‘Someday Island’ when you have the power to make your dreams become reality by breaking free of your comfort zone.

Today Island’ is where all the positive action is. Take the leap of faith by investing in yourself and make your ‘somedays’ come true 😊

Steve Preston is a leading Career Coach to executives and professionals, MD of specialist Consultancy SMP Solutions (Career & People development) Ltdmotivational speaker and Internationally acclaimed author Author of Career and Personal Development books and products, including Portfolio Careers – How to Work for Passion, Pleasure & Profit! and Winning through Career Change.

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